One of the
rules in Pathways is NO GLORIFICATION. This means that you are not allowed to
describe the good times, as they might be triggering for another client. I
challenged this today, and was shot down on multiple angles. I think you should
be allowed to depict it in valuable terms, in order to relive the few decent spells
on board we ever had. Take AA for example. Instead of everyone banging on about
Bill & Bob and on how good the program is, let everyone talk about how they
wet themselves on Aunty Margaret’s sofa, put the cat in the microwave, and went
swimming in the River Mersey at midnight on New Year’s Eve. It’d be far more
fun. Don’t tell me there were never any good times. Don’t tell me it was never
hedonistic. I once drank a bottle of whiskey and fell asleep with my electric
blanket on for 12 hours. I woke up like a charred hotdog. I got told off in a
different group the other month for describing a line of coke like eucalyptus
up the conk. Wouldn’t you like to hear all the horror stories about alcoholism
and drug use, rather than I’m two and a half years clean?
The people
who are multiple years clean are scared stiff of a relapse. They’re running.
Yeah, I’m jealous, but I’m also honest. They have so much to fear, they would
never recover from it. It would break them. Us ruiners laugh at relapses, it means nothing, we get back on the
saddle and return to the roots of our destiny quicker than those year-longs can
spell relapse. I swear, I’m losing faith in recovery. One guy asked me how many
months sober I was at my last AA meeting. Just because he was doing well, the
whole world has to be doing well around him. “I’m pissed now,” I said to him.
How does that sh*t on your boater.
I know I’m
not 66 Days clean (my last best run), but I am again honest. I’m mad for the
hedonism. Life gets so boring. I’m isolated in desolation and estranged, what
do you expect. But what I do have is a passion for writing, no matter what’s
going on. There have been three chapters to my life so far, three parts, three
acts, and now it’s over. I’m going to die. What’s the point in striving to be
clean if it can all be broken at any given moment, on the run? I’m giving up, I
know, in a way, I shouldn’t be talking like this, but it is what it is. I know
an addict girl who I have unconditional love for, and I don’t care if she uses
day in and day out, I’ll still love her. I don’t mind if she sticks a vial of
heroin in her groin, starts slobbering, and conks out in front of Midsummer
Murders pumped up at maximum volume. In fact, I love her because she is an addict. What does it matter, is what I suppose I’m
saying, what we are. What does it matter what we are at all? We’re all
connected.